Big Talk Day

It wasn't a great day today, but it wasn't awful either. I found myself to be overly emotional and negative. I need to work on positive thinking.

Big Talk No. 1 - Tween brought home a note today from his science teacher. It said that he had been particularly disruptive in class today, among other things. So I had a big chat with him again about taking responsibility for his behaviour. We also discussed what friendship was and whether his mate (who assists in the disruptiveness) was really a good friend to him. Tween remarked on something he had read in PE/Health, about friends not being people who tease alot. He said that it had made him think about how his mate behaved towards him. I encouraged him to find other friends, or develop the friendships that he has made since coming to highschool.

Big Talk No. 2 - I had the talk with Tween tonight. I asked him if he remembered how things had been between DH and I before DH went away. He said that we were angry alot and argued alot. He said that he had wished we would take a break from each other to see if we wanted to fix things. I pointed out that DH going away had given us that opportunity and that DH and I had had a talk recently and decided that we would separate and I would move out once DH came back. I could see Tweens head start ticking straight away, so I jumped in with - 'we are staying in this city, I will find a place down the road, and you guys will live with me most of the time.' He clarified where I meant when I said 'down the road'. I told him it would be an apartment, alot smaller than here, and he kind of screwed his face up, so I said that Tween and his dad could have a chat about how they want to work out the living stuff, that I was happy for him to come and hang out with his dad whenever. Tween suggested he do week about and I thought that was a pretty good idea. He seemed sad, so I said that to him. He said 'yeah'. I told him I was sad too, because I am. We talked about it for a bit longer and then Tween changed the subject completely and that was that.

I know he will now go away and think on it for awhile and pop back to me with his thoughts when he is ready. I asked him not to discuss it with No. 2. That boy is a whole other story, I think. I will tackle it shortly.