Tuesday, January 11, 2011

I choose to be hopeful

that this year will improve on the last. It's not starting off quite as well as I would like, but I will work with it.

Teen has an appointment on Fri with the Mental Health services. Our new journey is beginning.

I spent some time reflecting on my parenting and I plan to make some changes. I will reintroduce our menu planning that we used to do when we lived in the city. I will introduce a chores list so that all of us are contributing to making the house a nice home to live in, and subsequently teach life skills that will benefit my boys down the track. I will assist the boys with school work and make time for fun as a family.

I have spent time reflecting on my own lifestyle habits and I plan to make some changes. 15 yrs of crappy habits aren't going to be easy to break, but I need to.

I had a read back through my posts and realised that I only briefly mentioned that I took a break from skating last year. From around August to Oct. This was due to a condition called shin splints. I thought it was just cramps, but could find no way of relieving the pain except for not skating. In August I had done some research and found that my problem was shin splints - Info about shin splints I was in so much pain I was crying at training. So I took a break. I got myself new skates for my birthday, thinking that may be part of the problem. I began skating again, gently, not full on training, in November. No pain. I was feeling very confident that I would be back skating as a member of the league again in the new year. Our league went on our holiday break in early Dec and I did not skate until about two weeks ago.

My return to skating was as a street skater. This is an activity I had feared for a long time and I felt it was time to make some progress and actually give it a good go. I discovered that I really enjoyed it. I have a 'safe' area to skate, in that it is fairly clear paths, mostly flat, not too many things that can cause me to fall.

Unfortunately, during my 4th street skate session, I felt that all too familiar pain in my shins. It wasn't terrible and so I rested often during the skate and took it easy. I gave myself a few days off from the street skating.

I couldn't get to our first training session back tonight as I was working, so I took myself off to my spot and went for a street skate. Within half an hour I was in agony, even with frequent stops and not pushing too hard. I headed back to my car, but it got too much so I took off my skates and found that I could barely walk, that my lower legs could barely support me as I got my gear into the car.

I got into the car and cried, not just from the pain that was so much worse than last time, but also from the knowledge that me and skating are pretty much done. I think I will be able to manage it when I am out with the kids, cos they fluff around so much that it takes us 2 hrs to do my usual 40 min skate, but I am thinking that Derby is a definite no-go. It also means no more running (which I wasn't doing anyway, but had planned to start that back up).

I spoke to a personal trainer and she recommended lots of stretching before exercise, go and see a physio, and find a low impact sport like cycling to do instead.

I choose to be hopeful that the problem will be resolved. I understand that it may mean no longer skating in the roller derby league. At this point I am still heavily involved in other areas of the league, so there is that at least.





Thursday, January 6, 2011

disturbed

example of brief interaction with teen...

Teen: mum, do we have any polystyrene?

Me: no

Teen: what about the boxes in the garage?

Me: no, they store my craft mags cos they are waterproof

Teen: The top one is empty

Me: That's because I used it for christmas drinks. When it dries out the mags are going back in there

Teen: (silence)

The next day...

Teen: do you have any polystyrene I can have

Me: no.......why?

Teen: I want to make napalm

Me: (be silent, walk away, deep breaths, don't cry)

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Yesterday he broke a window in the garage. He seemed to be having fun. I lost it at him. I kept it brief, walked away, and barely spoke to him for the rest of the afternoon.